SHOULD YOU GET UPSET WHEN YOU ARE DATING SOMEONE AND THEY UPDATE THEIR PROFILE
Probably not, cut them some slack. You’re not exclusive. Yes, it’s a bit of a slap in the face if you are dating and perhaps even slept with someone, and he’s actively changing up his profile photos. You can’t really be sore at him, the best way is to move on. He’s insensitive. Personally, I wouldn’t rub it in a man’s face if I was actively pursuing other men. Why? For what purpose?
I completely understand that until you’ve had a chat about exclusivity he’s under no obligation to only date or sleep with you. That’s why I suggest you do what I am going to do from here on out. I will not sleep with anyone unless they are exclusively seeing me. That doesn’t mean we are in a relationship. It means we are only intimate with each other and not pursuing anyone else romantically until we can figure out whether we want to become an item or not. At least this way you can feel safer from a health perspective and an emotional one. I have been burned too many times where I thought that a man would be honorable enough to not rub it in my face that he’s still pursuing other women and actively changing up his photos on his profile after being intimate with me.
If you haven’t had the exclusivity talk, you can’t be annoyed with him for him not doing what you would deem the respectful thing. Of course, he wants his cake and eat it too. He wants you in his life and be measuring you up against other women too. Good for him. A high-value woman doesn’t play that game. If you’ve lost your power by sleeping with him already, it’s not too late to say, that you will no longer continue to sleep with him until you reach an agreement. No agreement, well then, no hard feelings. You can easily find a man that will value you enough to not want to risk losing you to another man.
So yes, he’s thoughtless to be updating his online profile and probably clueless that you are still seeing other men too. You are just more subtle in your endeavors and not rubbing his nose in it. Onwards and upwards. It’s not a mistake it’s a learning experience. We, as women hold the power and we are not going to be put in a holding pattern while he makes his decision. Continue to date, and wait for him to step up. If he doesn’t there’s plenty of men that will.
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