Have you ever heard someone say, “I love him, but I just don’t like him right now” At the beginning of a relationship, is it more important to get swept off your feet, totally infatuated and feeling heady with the euphoria of the newness, or is it more important to fall in “like”. For me, I’m just like every other woman. Of course, I want to desire him so much that I want to shed my clothes and have a good roll in the hay. Yep, I’m human too, however, I am seeking a meaningful relationship. Something that can stand the test of time. 

I need to know that he is solidly dependable, trustworthy, and a good friend. I want to fall in love with my best friend, someone who inspires me and wants me to better myself. I want a man that can make me laugh my really awful ugly laugh, you know the one I mean, the one that sounds like a witches cackle. I want a man has the desire to protect me from life, he wants to make my life easier, in the little ways that are meaningful to me. 

I want to like him and he likes me enough that we know we will stay the course. We won’t put obstacles in our way. I want a combination of actions that include tenderness, talking and the stability that overshadows the excitement of initial sexual chemistry and lust. Well yes, I want great sex too, but I want the entire package and I’m not willing to settle for less. I want a man that is inspired to work towards daily strengthening and deepening our relationship. 

I want to like a man so much that I go the extra effort for him. I’ll spend that little extra time getting ready so he can be proud of me when we’re out. I want to show him I care, in the little things I do for him daily, from the way I say good morning or a quick kiss on the top of his head as he sits there and works. I want to truly be “in like” because I might love him, but I want to like him more.

Here’s an idea for you:

Make a list of things that your partner could do for you that would make you feel truly adored and ask him to compile his list for you. Make a date night, and exchange your lists. Watch how much closer you feel now. Use that list in the future to create intimate moments between you and keep your relationship strong and thriving.