How to reframe your thinking to be 100% confidant and feeling hot and sexy on a first date

Do you feel nervous when you’re going to meet a man for the first time? I am sure that many women feel the same way, anxiety as the time of the date draws near, what to wear, should I wear Spanx so I look thinner, do I look pretty enough, does my hair look good?

To be honest, once you are in the dating world long enough you have your “go to” outfits, so you don’t have to worry about how you look. Think about the image you want to portray. Personally I think a dress is really attractive on a first date. You are showing up feminine, and men love femininity and are drawn to it like kryptonite.

Go easy on the make-up. You want to look like you put effort in, but men generally like a groomed woman, not a make-up clad one.

If you’re on the dating scene, it’s a good idea to be in a maintenance routine when it comes to nails, hair, waxing and facials. You want to look good at a drop of a hat. The only way to do this is to routinely keep your appointments so you always look your absolute best. You deserve it. Do it for you first…dating second.

So how to overcome your nerves? It really is as simple as valuing yourself and what you bring to the table. Instead of fretting whether he will like you, ask you out on a 2nd date, become your boyfriend, rather reframe your thinking to, “I am confident and beautiful and he would be damn lucky if he gets a 2nd date” Try it, I promise it changes everything. Your whole outlook on dating becomes more of whether he will show up and meet your requirements.

Know what you want, and don’t settle for less. Knowing this though, I suggest you shelve it for your first meet-n-greet. Go in with no expectations. The worst thing that will happen is that you met up for a drink, and there was zero connection. But maybe, this man could end up being a lifelong friend, maybe a long term relationship maybe even more. Go with the mind of meeting a new and interesting person, one that you want to learn about, and hopefully one that will intellectually stimulate you. Go with the intention of having a fun evening. Don’t think much beyond that. It there is a mutual attraction, then there will be a second date. If not, it clearly wasn’t meant to be, and then there will be another first date with another man.

When you love yourself you feel more confident. Confidence is so sexy. You walk taller, you exude grace and femininity, and most importantly, when as a woman you are confidant, you hold all the real power on that date.

Remember this cardinal rule about the online dating world. You can’t control what he does, you can only show up and control your actions, your behavior and your response. Remember to be a class act. If he is disrespectful to you, then politely excuse yourself, thank him graciously for the drink and hold your head high girlfriend and walk away. You retain all the power in a classy way. He is going to watch you walk away, and wonder if he made a mistake!

You are going to conduct yourself on first meet-n-greets with a sense of high value and self respect. You are going to walk in and out of that date with a level of confidence that radiates about you. This is going to knock their socks off…and you won’t be on the dating circuit for long. Remember, you are worthy of great love. Don’t settle for less.

Love,