Imagine having a man that barely knows you saying this:

Ease up on your inflated sense of self…let people determine your worth.

Now yes, consider the source. A narcissistic, middle-aged man that has some huge insecurities. However, the first thing I thought when I read his text to me was, what if I wasn’t as secure in who I am and the value I see in myself that comment could’ve derailed me. What about other women that are recently divorced, shaky in their feelings of self-love and acceptance? Comments like this are reckless and intended to hurt. So how do we as woman determine our self-worth?

The way you determine or self-  the kind of life you will lead. Make sure to value yourself on factors you can control, not external ones you can’t. The idea is to have a better grasp as to who you are  and to be content with the progress you have made and where you are going. In essence, you have to believe in yourself and your abilities no matter what is happening in your life; a break-up, a divorce, getting fired from a job.

Instead of chasing things that temporarily boost your self-confidence measure your worth by who you are at your core. Give meaning and purpose to your life by what you give back to others and behave according to your values. 

Train your brain to speak about yourself in a positive way. Don’t be so harsh on yourself. The world is a hard enough place as it is. Speak kindly to yourself, look at yourself in the mirror and accept and love and appreciate what you see. You don’t need someone else to tell you are beautiful. All of us have our own special beauty, and it is for us to embrace it and take back the power that self-love brings. 

No man should ever devalue a woman. We as women need to feel so much self-worth that nasty comments like the one I received can’t penetrate because we know our worth, and we are certainly all worthy of more than that.